![]() ![]() Alot of the stuff we know, we find out and DEFINITELY play dumb with.įirst milestones in nannying are a big one. Some things that we know, they know we do and accept it. Seriously who buys mayo to put on everything as their condiment of choice? We know personal preferences they have over the years to any random assortment of thing. We know schedules that they say are the reason aren't really the reason We know sometimes the bar trips the parent takes before coming home. We know when the parents are tired and dont want to come home. Simple boxes in bedroom drawers, in random linen closets, mostly readily able to find and just out of they way (I've helped move several families and doing the checks for packing has gotten some interesting results) parents in general hide their unusual items in the most usual places. ![]() Mainly where the toys are, where dad hides all his empty energy drink cans, where mom stores all her shopping purchases with tags still on them. But even though I can’t know exactly, I know. How that need for one particular person never goes away. She’s never told me how deeply she still loves him or how painful it was to see him slipping away, how lonely it is living with only his photographs and memories. Sometimes when I call her to confirm that I’m coming over, she sounds deflated and lonely when she first picks up before she switches into her telephone voice. ![]() I know how it is to lose someone to dementia, but I can only imagine it being your spouse. But I see the photographs she keeps of her husband all over the house, ones of them together as well as of him young and handsome in uniform, long before she ever met him when they were middle-aged. She tells me about her life without a trace of sentiment, everything is matter of fact and lighthearted. At some point she divorced and later in life remarried, and cared for her husband as he developed dementia and eventually passed away. And she did all this as a black woman and a mother. She was a Boeing inspector in the 60s and 70s, and stood up to a lot of men in order to make sure the planes were up to code. I clean for an elderly lady who is still quite sharp and feisty. ![]()
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